Why I choose not to be a slave to society

As I've grown, explored, travelled, experienced, discovered and developed as a person, in the journey of life, I am becoming more and more my own person. It's just what I wanted when I set out to China in 2015. To discover myself. That I did. I went through an amazing period of self discovery - which highly contributed to why I decided to stay in China for another year. Through discovering who I am, and what I actually like/dislike - not what society and those around made me feel like I had to like/dislike/do etc, I have increasingly learned that lot's of my choices were largely influenced by society, "culture" and expectations. I am still learning and elevating myself away from these influences. It's not easy. 

In this sense, I am actively choosing not to be a slave to society. In fact, every part of the world has a different expectation. It was through traveling that I realised that what is normal in one place, isn't in another. What is acceptable in one place, isn't in another. That being said there are some themes that are common across the world - in regards to beauty and what is cool/not cool. I want to defeat these and just be me. Not give a damn about what anyone thinks or their judgements/assumptions of me.  I want to do what makes me happy, relaxed and have myself as number one. Of course, I won't be breaking society's laws to make myself happy, but only society's customs. 

I'm using this blog space for my general thoughts and writings. A lot of this might not even make sense. But I like writing, reflecting and pondering. These days, I dress for my comfort and mood not for fashion, I have made life choices for me not for other people/society/British cultural expectations, I say no if I don't actually wanna do something and I'm actively learning other languages, cultures, traditions and ways of life. I want to feel elevated and empowered by uniqueness, difference and not conforming to society. 

It's still a long journey. A very long journey, that I am only just beginning. But I'm glad I'm on it.

au natural


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